non verbal language and its impact on power perception

"fake it till you become it"

amy cuddy: your body language shapes who you are

lust. romantic love. attachment.

what a great reminder of the magic of romantic love:

helen fisher: why we love, why we cheat

what is romantic love?
- the person takes on special meaning
- total focus on one person
- endless energy, mood swings, emotional dependence
- sexually possessive with darwinian roots
- intense craving to be with a person sexually and emotionally
- motivation: want this person
- obsession: think about him/her all day all night
- would die for the person
- a drive, not an emotion: brain activity (rise in dopamine level) similar to rush from cocaine

3 brain systems: built to reproduce
1. lust/sex drive: evolved to get you to look for the person
2. romantic love: evolved to get you to be involved with the person
3. attachment: evolved to get you to stay together to bear offsprings

note to self..

need to learn the art of building followership.. 

hard power. soft power. smart power.

received my leverage inventory report yesterday, need to work on cultivating smart power, starting with:
coalition:
- be strategic about building my network: key stakeholders, future supporters, mentors, influential figures
- leverage current network more effectively
- align ahead of time for efficient consensus building

might:
- speaking up, saying no
- use authority and delegate/outsource
- be comfortable with confronting negative performance and have difficult conversation

agency:
- take initiative, be proactive
- be creative with solutions
- bend rules, find ways to work around rules and obstacles

pathos:
- tell stories to arouse emotions

and lastly, BE MALLEABLE! pick and choose the right tool to use for the right occasion and people.

more to come later.

"pride is what gets in the way between your ears and your mouth" -- Ron Schapiro 

should let go of my pride and just listen and observe more often.

last two months of my academic life, decided to start a blog to document and capture past and ongoing learnings.  starting with one of my favorite TED talks:

simon sinek: how great leaders inspire action

key takeaways: 

• people don't buy what you do but why you do it
• why - how - what: start from what you believe