non verbal language and its impact on power perception

"fake it till you become it"

amy cuddy: your body language shapes who you are

lust. romantic love. attachment.

what a great reminder of the magic of romantic love:

helen fisher: why we love, why we cheat

what is romantic love?
- the person takes on special meaning
- total focus on one person
- endless energy, mood swings, emotional dependence
- sexually possessive with darwinian roots
- intense craving to be with a person sexually and emotionally
- motivation: want this person
- obsession: think about him/her all day all night
- would die for the person
- a drive, not an emotion: brain activity (rise in dopamine level) similar to rush from cocaine

3 brain systems: built to reproduce
1. lust/sex drive: evolved to get you to look for the person
2. romantic love: evolved to get you to be involved with the person
3. attachment: evolved to get you to stay together to bear offsprings